I am so glad I grew up in the era where a persons self-worth was not determined by likes or retweets. Where self-confidence was established in the home environment. Acceptance came from people who knew you, literally knew you, not virtually . When a handful of quality relationships could carry a person a lifetime. No one really has hundreds of friends. The notion is laughable. Who are we if we check social media more times a day than we engage face to face conversations in a month? Do you have three people you could call who would come to your home in a crisis? Would you be comfortable with them seeing you just as you are? No hair and makeup or barbers cut and shave. Can you have a phone conversation with them?
What is the source of your self-confidence? It comes from within, not external validation. Eventually external validation is good, we all need it. Being supported and understood is comforting. In the event that does not occur just when you need it. What are you working with in your inner man? Can it carry you, alone.
“I will lift up my eyes to the hills—
From whence comes my help?
My help comes from the Lord,
Who made heaven and earth.” Psalm 121:1-2 NKJV
Well, it’s Saturday and I’m reviewing this weeks posts to ensure I followed my own counsel before I share today. So, let’s see, this week I…
Worked out (everyday, but one)
Pursued uncomplicated endeavors
Prepared a simple meal and smiled
Enjoyed my guests
Voiced my notes of thanks at the thanksgiving table
Laughed a lot (my family is known for that)
Baked cookies
Watched two animated movies (love those)
Ok, I added the last three, for fun 🙂 . So how did you fare this week? Share whatever you’d like, let me know if you want a response or just treasure it in your heart. It’s your memory. Just take some time before the new week begins to reflect on the good things (anything good) you experienced this week and say aloud “I’m thankful for…..”.
Expressed gratitude heals the heart. #Counsel4Living
Note: If your thanksgiving week experience finds you needing recovery, check back next week, when I’ll post some help for the hurting. ✌️
Don’t sit in silence and wonder. Have a conversation. It’s much easier to open a dialogue than to avoid it and let imagination and assumptions develop. Need to get something off your chest. Arrange a time when all parties are likely to be rested and calm, then talk about it.
Don’t forget! Use wisdom in the time you select to have your conversation. Ask, “Is this a good time?”
Is there too much alcohol in your body? You know it shows on your face right? If you want a clear, firm complexion, you’re gonna need to cut down on your alcohol intake, especially before bed. Wanna save your complexion??? Put a lid on it …
Ouch! I know that hurt. I’ll say something that makes you feel a little better another day. 🙂
How was your weekend? What did you do this weekend? It’s the Monday morning generic question around the world in many cultures.
Have you found yourself pre-meditating your answer to inquiring peers on your commute to the office? Then you’ve fallen prey to peer pressure. Yes, as an adult it is possible to feel pressure from peers to “report” something. We’ve all done it and experienced it, but lately I’m experiencing the liberating freedom to not need to express all the colorful details of my social life to any one who’s not there with me enjoying it. How wonderful!
I can hear what all my friends and family are saying about what they’re doing, where they’re going and simply enjoy their sharing without pressure to share my whole activity list. I actually think it’s rather ridiculous to do that, unless it’s simply a conversation starter, in which case its okay to share briefly. Nobody wants too much information… It’s off-putting.
Maybe I feel this way since I’m typically doing something interesting or going some place new, as a life style. So, when I’m done, I hardly have the muscle or the inclination to “report” it to the top 5 folks on my list. They know me. They know I’m fun, energetic and always doing something cool, when I feel like it. And even when I’m having downtime, it’s with the best snacks, in the best cozy setting with my best friend. So there it is! I had a good time shopping and lunching, dining and dancing, traveling and sight-seeing, volunteering, serving, resting and regrouping, at a museum or art gallery, at a concert, at a neighborhood festival, sailing, at the movies, gardening etc… Just take one you like and fill in the blank about how my weekend was.. lol.
Does this seem strange to you? Ok, maybe your strategy for handling Monday conversations with peers is working for you. In that case, excellent! But if you find yourself struggling to “report” on Mondays, I want to encourage you take the short and sweet approach in your sharing today. Grace and Peace. #Counsel4Living
COMING THIS SPRING: Counsel4Living’s first Daily Living Guide – STAY TUNED
Be your authentic self. Yes, there is some tweaking that can always happen in order to mesh with others better, but at the core, know who you are. Valuable, loved, gifted. A contribution to the world. Let it exude from you today. And leave the rest in God’s very capable hands😊.
When how you feel on the inside doesn’t match how you appear on the outside, get in sync. Don’t blame others, explain, justify or make excuses for being out of balance. Just do the work, and get in sync.
Reprinted from todays nugget for success found on the Counsel4Living App. Invest in your growth:
I know who you are. You’re the go-getter ambitious one. In your family, at the office, in your community, at your church. You’re a go to person, you’re resourceful and competent. You help others get it done.
Periodically, you feel a little drained, pulled on and in need of some help yourself. You’re a Counsel4living client… because, I help the worlds helpers. You’re not alone.
Relationships require consistency. All kinds of relationships. So if you’re wondering why yours don’t work well or why they don’t give you back what you need or expect. Check your track record on consistency.
Are you up and down in your moods? Try to get a handle on that.
Do you feel like talking some days and not talking other days? That’s okay unless you yield to that feeling even though you know someone is waiting to hear from you?
There is where a relationship is bleeding out. So when you come to yourself and decide to reach out to that person, chances are they already formed some sort of opinion about how much energy to give you.
The world isn’t operating on your schedule and much is moving on without you. This is why you may feel like many others have much more than you. They are consistently assertive, going after what they want.
Tip of the day: Be consistent
Only the results driven get results. Driven is not a periodic phenomenon. It’s a lifestyle.
If you only put in effort every now and then, that s why your business, friendships and romantic relationships keep stalling out. We all get what we work towards.
It’s not them, it’s you…. And, if you’re being consistent in your efforts without any response, consider adding some new people or situations to the equation.
The world is a big place. Make something happen or at least own what you’re making happen.
A couple of 14-carat gold wedding rings. Picture taken in Brazil, where 14-carat is the most common kind of gold used in jewelry. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
I trust it served you up some hope. Possibly stimulated thoughts, caused introspection or even grated you.
It is pretty difficult to go through life without acknowledging the institution of marriage. And whatever your perspective may be, it’s healthy to give thought to it. Own your position and express it in the corner of the world where you live.
This is healthy~This is living~This is maturity
This is what I do: Encouraging thought, prompting introspection, initiating process.
On my own journey, facing challenges, celebrating triumphs, pulling alongside you…
Counsel4Living 