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Have you observed athletes, entertainers or entrepreneurs that are uber successful, who did not spend a lot of time, maybe just the minimum in school? It’s something to think about as you weigh how to allocate your dollars and energy on higher education. A formal education teaches you a body of knowledge. It grooms you on how to think, how to be resourceful, how to endure challenges. What it may not do for you is open up lucrative income. That part is going to be up to you. Part skill set, part creativity, partly what you embody.

It’s not one’s pursuit of a particular course of study that guarantees open doors. Instead, it’s who you know you are that translates into opportunities. Go to school? Yes, but take the limits off yourself after you do, and go for what’s in your heart.


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Powerful message

Tell your teenagers it’s okay to be who they are. Encourage their individuality. Help them find the outlet for it. And while you’re supporting them, parents or mentors, hit the refresh button on this message for yourself. I love it! It’s on the play list.

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No thanks!

When I look back on poor decisions made in pain or emotional turmoil I say, “No thanks”.

From a point of clarity, “No thanks”.

My head is on straight now, so “No thanks “.

I may be alone, but “No thanks”.

From my true self, with courage and conviction. I say again to you, to this, or that – ” No thanks!”

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They don’t have to like it

I am so glad I grew up in the era where a persons self-worth was not determined by likes or retweets. Where self-confidence was established in the home environment. Acceptance came from people who knew you, literally knew you, not virtually . When a handful of quality relationships could carry a person a lifetime. No one really has hundreds of friends. The notion is laughable. Who are we if we check social media more times a day than we engage face to face conversations in a month? Do you have three people you could call who would come to your home in a crisis? Would you be comfortable with them seeing you just as you are? No hair and makeup or barbers cut and shave. Can you have a phone conversation with them?

What is the source of your self-confidence? It comes from within, not external validation. Eventually external validation is good, we all need it. Being supported and understood is comforting. In the event that does not occur just when you need it. What are you working with in your inner man? Can it carry you, alone.

“I will lift up my eyes to the hills—
From whence comes my help?

My help comes from the Lord,
Who made heaven and earth.” Psalm 121:1-2 NKJV


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Put a lid on it

Is there too much alcohol in your body? You know it shows on your face right? If you want a clear, firm complexion, you’re gonna need to cut down on your alcohol intake, especially before bed. Wanna save your complexion??? Put a lid on it …20140322-092221.jpg

Ouch! I know that hurt. I’ll say something that makes you feel a little better another day. 🙂

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Poor Choices

Ladies, don’t be sad and desperate… You’ll make poor choices when you are.

It’s Friday, get out and do something interesting and find an occasion to laugh. Looking to meet someone? Let them find you while you’re enjoying your life. 😉 #Counsel4Livingimage

If you don’t know a woman who’s successful, happy, in a healthy relationship and full of faith. Stop by my blog for regular mentoring. You don’t have to do life alone! See you soon.

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Well, it’s Monday

rollercoaster3How was your weekend? What did you do this weekend? It’s the Monday morning generic question around the world in many cultures.

Have you found yourself pre-meditating your answer to inquiring peers on your commute to the office? Then you’ve fallen prey to peer pressure. Yes, as an adult it is possible to feel pressure from peers to “report” something. We’ve all done it and experienced it, but lately I’m experiencing the liberating freedom to not need to express all the colorful details of my social life to any one who’s not there with me enjoying it. How wonderful!

I can hear what all my friends and family are saying about what they’re doing, where they’re going and simply enjoy their sharing without pressure to share my whole activity list. I actually think it’s rather ridiculous to do that, unless it’s simply a conversation starter, in which case its okay to share briefly. Nobody wants too much information… It’s off-putting.

Maybe I feel this way since I’m typically doing something interesting or going some place new, as a life style. So, when I’m done, I hardly have the muscle or the inclination to “report” it to the top 5 folks on my list. They know me. They know I’m fun, energetic and always doing something cool, when I feel like it. And even when I’m having downtime, it’s with the best snacks, in the best cozy setting with my best friend. So there it is! I had a good time shopping and lunching, dining and dancing, traveling and sight-seeing, volunteering, serving, resting and regrouping, at a museum or art gallery, at a concert, at a neighborhood festival, sailing, at the movies, gardening etc… Just take one you like and fill in the blank about how my weekend was.. lol.

Does this seem strange to you? Ok, maybe your strategy for handling Monday conversations with peers is working for you. In that case, excellent! But if you find yourself struggling to “report” on Mondays, I want to encourage you take the short and sweet approach in your sharing today. Grace and Peace. #Counsel4Living

COMING THIS SPRING: Counsel4Living’s first Daily Living Guide – STAY TUNED